Getting angry at God and questioning your faith after your loved one's death is also very normal as part of the struggle to make sense of their death. Religion can be incredibly comforting at times of loss, especially when you feel devastated and broken inside.
It's important to understand that anger is a normal and healthy part of grief. While not all people who suffer the death of a loved one experience anger at God, most will feel this way at someone or something during the long process of grief and its resolution.
Is It a Sin to Be Angry at God? No. Pastor David's expressed anger to God was not a sin. However, how that anger is acted out can potentially cause problems.
God walks with us on our grief journey and that your becoming angry with God may be an indication of how deeply one of God's creations touched your life, how deep your feelings of loss are, and how you have begun to realize that all of us are connected with God and one another in a single circle of life.
“When a man's folly brings his way to ruin, his heart rages against the Lord” (Proverbs 19:3). When God's children wandered about in the wilderness, He summed up their attitude as, “They grumble against Me” (Numbers 14:27). Quarreling with God is a baseline human characteristic.
If you're angry with God, tell Him. Lay your heart open before God. Acknowledge that even while you don't understand what's happened, you trust He can make everything work out. It took me a while to see how my circumstances could be used for God's glory and my good.
God Hands Us Over
In the Bible we see this phrase over and over—when God gets angry, he “hands us over.” But what does this mean?
The stages of denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance give a structure by which an understanding of the process of grieving can be achieved. The second stage of grief that is often described is that of anger.
The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. “Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God; believe also in me.
Talk to the person you've lost
When a person dies, it doesn't mean when have to stop talking to them. Expressing your feelings of anger to the person you've lost can be a helpful way of working through those feelings. You could write a letter to your loved one, or simply talk to them out loud.
It's not a sin to question God — search the scriptures if you doubt. I believe God wants us to question His plan and His ways. He settles our doubts by giving us the belief that His ways are not always our ways.
Sometimes when bad things happen, they empower us to act and serve. Even the Savior, our example, suffered infirmities, “that his bowels may be filled with mercy” and so that He could know “how to succor his people” (Alma 7:12). Trials can open our eyes to those who are suffering.
There are no limits to what God can do (Matthew 19:26.). He is omnipotent. All powerful. God set up a system to forgive us here and now, not afterward, and that's the way it is.
There is no set length or duration for grief, and it may come and go in waves. However, according to 2020 research , people who experience common grief may experience improvements in symptoms after about 6 months, but the symptoms largely resolve in about 1 to 2 years.
Grief and loss affect the brain and body in many different ways. They can cause changes in memory, behavior, sleep, and body function, affecting the immune system as well as the heart. It can also lead to cognitive effects, such as brain fog.
God wants us all to reflect on life choices outside of his created intent and feel grief for the losses they create. When we don't let ourselves feel grief over sinful life choices, we block our ability to participate in God's grace.
Psalm 34:18 “The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.” Psalm 73:26 “My flesh and my heart faileth: but God is the strength of my heart, and my portion forever.” Matthew 5:4 “Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.”
'And when He had looked round about on them with anger, being grieved for the hardness of their hearts,' is all too close to home for the flippant way we treat sin in our own lives. Not only was God grieved, (Genesis 6:6) but Jesus also grieved over the hardness of our hearts. (Mark 3:5).
Depression is usually the longest and most difficult stage of grief. Depression can be a long and difficult stage in the grieving process, but it's also when people feel their deepest sadness.
Shock is common after the loss of a loved one. Shock symptoms can include both a bodily and emotional response in the same person. It's possible that you'll experience dizziness, nausea, confusion, numbness, or even exhaustion. Feeling stunned may cause you to doubt the veracity of what you're hearing.
It is completely normal to feel profoundly sad for more than a year, and sometimes many years, after a person you love has died. Don't put pressure on yourself to feel better or move on because other people think you should. Be compassionate with yourself and take the space and time you need to grieve.
We get angry with God when we don't know all the facts. It's so easy to think we know everything, but we can only see a very small part of the picture. We get angry at God when we see others claim to know Him, and then act like hypocrites. It's easy to blame God for the faults of others.
Even before God became man, it's clear throughout the Old Testament that God feels sorrow, even weeps for the crushing blows of His people. Psalm 34:18 promises us that “the Lord is close to the brokenhearted.” How can you be close to someone who is brokenhearted and not feel their pain?
Anger is not a sin, but a God-given emotion
Anger is a signal that something is wrong and needs to be addressed. Sin and injustice are things we should be angry about because we serve a God that is just. It is important for couples to understand that their anger can be a gift if handled rightly.