There is NO way to ask that isn't offensive. Do so at your own peril. A lot of girls are very self-conscious of their weight and It really is a very private thing for a girl.
Even if you think you're being complimentary, sometimes it's best to say nothing at all. By Eat This, Not That! Just like you should never ask a woman how old she is, you should certainly never ever ask her how much she weighs.
But unless you know for sure that the person was trying to lose weight and that they are OK with you commenting on their body, steer clear. “Polite people avoid questioning or commenting on others' weight at all,” Epstein says.
Open the discussion about weight in a respectful and nonjudgmental way. Patients may be more open if they feel respected. Open the discussion about weight in a respectful and nonjudgmental way. Before asking patients if they wish to discuss their weight, mention the health risks associated with overweight and obesity.
It's important to note that it's generally considered impolite in the US to ask someone's weight. I think it's an impolite question everywhere. Not impolite to ask if you are a nurse or a doctor.
Articulate that your concerns are because you care. “Send the message that you are coming from a place of love rather than criticism,” says Goodpaster. “For example, 'I will always love you regardless of your body size, [and] because I love you so much, I want to make sure we live a long, healthy life together.
Comments on weight are often detrimental no matter how good our intentions may be. We never know what someone is struggling with and we could be contributing to self-harm, a negative body image or an eating disorder.
The top reasons you should stop commenting on someone's weight are: It tells the person they hold more value in a smaller body or a body that fits your needs. You could be complimenting an eating disorder.
When approaching the issue of weight, give your loved one lots of space. If they do not want to discuss their weight with you, let the issue go. Discussing one's weight is an extremely personal and sensitive matter. It might need to be done slowly, over time.
Asking someone his or her weight is rude and invasive and it downgrades the immense effort it took to create the weight loss to a simple number. Think of it this way: how much someone has lost is as private as their current weight, age or salary.
If they're making digs at your body, let them know it won't be tolerated. If your partner is breaking any of these rules, it's OK to let them know they're out of line. They might be well-intentioned, but if comments or even compliments about your body are getting you down, you need to let your partner know.
Weight affects who is willing to date us. The first impression we make on someone is our physical appearance. Do we have an attractive face and body? We lose points for weight despite having a nice face and a winning personality.
Focus on health (not weight)
It's tempting to say “don't worry, you'll lose the weight”. Instead, the best thing you can do is bring the conversation back to how eating healthily and exercise makes her feel, not look.
Especially if someone has lost weight in a way that is noticeable, it might feel like something to congratulate them on. However, even if you are intending it as a compliment, making a comment on someone's weight loss is actually rude. Here's my take as a dietitian on the reasons why you should avoid these comments.
“Making a casual comment about someone's changed body or weight loss might seem like the kind thing to do, but it encourages the idea that thinner bodies are healthier and more worthy of attention, and this is problematic in perpetuating diet culture,” advises Dr. Laing.
It depends on how she feels about herself.
The key question isn't whether she's gaining weight or not, but how she feels about it. If she's perfectly happy with her body, you telling her she has a problem implies that your opinion about her body matters more than how she feels—which is unreasonable.
Weight gain isn't necessarily unhealthy, and it's certainly not a character flaw. We have far less control over our body size and shape in the long run than conventional wisdom suggests. Commenting on someone's weight (positive or negative), is not only insensitive and rude, it can actually be harmful.
Have you gained weight since entering a long-term relationship? If so, you're not alone. Research shows that many happy couples tend to gain weight, beginning in the early stages of a relationship and lasting into commitment. But it's not inevitable; you can take steps to avoid relationship weight gain.
Ultimately, we don't have the right to tell our partners to lose weight. We can, however, communicate our motive behind wanting them to lose weight if it will benefit their health, but ultimately we have to respect their decision on if they actively want to lose weight, or not.
It's true that body weight is strongly correlated with the risk of various diseases such as heart disease, stroke, cancer, and diabetes. But there are numerous other indicators as well, including blood pressure, blood sugar, blood fats, and inflammation.
Another of the best ways to tell your girlfriend she is getting fat without insulting her is to stop making this about her. Ask her what she thinks of you and your weight. Tell her you are trying to work on your own fitness, diet, and BMI (body mass index).
Validate Her Feelings
If she thinks she's overweight, arguing with her feelings could make the situation worse. Validate her feelings by saying something like, "I know it can be hard to feel good about your body sometimes."