“Men usually worry about their stomach or abs, just like women, but they can also have insecurities about being underweight,” therapist Katie Leikam says.
“Men feel insecure about being seen as less-than,” says marriage and family therapist Hanalei Vierra, Ph. D. “Less than strong enough, less than smart enough, less than sexy enough, less than good-looking enough, less than funny enough, less than competent enough.”
Face/ Skin. One of the biggest insecurities people can develop throughout their lives is how one's face looks; acne, oily skin, moles, freckles or even scars are marks that can lead people to think they're unattractive and therefore feel insecure.
“Some of the most common insecurities and relationships include emotional insecurity, attachment insecurity, physical insecurity, financial insecurity, professional insecurity, and social insecurity,” explains LaTonya P.
Not all forms fit neatly into categories either, but some of the most common types of insecurity include relationship insecurity, social insecurity, body image insecurity, job insecurity, and insecurity of basic needs.
These extreme body image disturbances include body dysmorphic disorder, eating disorders and severe depression. Body Dysmorphic Disorder: This is a disorder of “imagined ugliness.” What individuals with this disorder see in the mirror is a grossly distorted view of what they actually look like.
The intense need for reassurance and lack of confidence are the clear signs of an insecure guy. He's likely to ask you a lot of questions about himself as he wants you to praise him. He is very concerned about his appearance.
Red flags in a relationship include excessive jealousy and frequent lying. You should also be wary of a partner who frequently criticizes you or puts you down. Another major red flag is an unwillingness to compromise — relationships shouldn't be one-sided.
Certainly, some men are insecure about their height and some men do turn to extremes to compensate for what they think is missing from their height. According to a new study, one of those extremes is less external and more internal. Shorter men are indirectly aggressive toward their taller counterparts.
Stomachs have been voted the most hated part of the body, followed by love handles and bingo wings, according to new research by non-surgical treatment clinic, CosmeDocs.
Studies show that men are most attracted to faces, followed closely by women's rear ends. The same study tells us that women like a man's chest and his hair.
Contrary to popular opinion, women seem to much more concerned with the body below the neck than men are. Only 2% preferring the face above all else. Taking the lead is the chest at 24%, closely followed by hair at 22% and arms at 19%. These preferences suggest the importance of muscles in making a man more attractive.
They're terrified of disappointing you. Some of the most common sexual issues — performance anxiety, erectile dysfunction — result from guys' fear of being bad lovers. However, because they don't want to look like they don't know what they're doing, they usually won't ask for direction from their partners.
Give (Honest) Compliments
Let him know what you find attractive about his body, and be specific. “Say, 'I love the strength of your arms,' or, 'I love the way your body feels wrapped around mine,'” says O'Reilly. Then show some love for his other attributes—how he makes you laugh, his killer style, etc.
The data suggests that men, on average, feel insecure about their looks three times a week, worrying about factors like their weight (37%) and how their eyes look (22%).
Physical, emotional, or mental abuse
Physical, emotional, and mental abuse are undeniable red flags in any relationship. Physical abuse is easier to pick up. But emotional and mental abuse can be just as damaging in the long run. And just like physical abuse, mental and emotional abuse can cause PTSD.
“A green flag is when a potential partner is considerate and aware of your boundaries, asks for clarification on them when they are unclear, and does not push them,” she says. Let's say you ask to meet at a bar or the park on the first date and have expressed that you're more comfortable meeting in public places.
While clingy tendencies may have been “ok” in your previous relationship, being overly needy is generally considered a toxic dating habit.
Moreover, men can love and treasure you at one moment and act completely uninterested the next moment, which could be even more annoying. Some instances of mind games that men play are: A guy may be interested in you and constantly texts you. However, they may suddenly go off the radar when you reciprocate to them.
Beauty is by far the biggest insecurity women report. We can be our own harshest critic and therefore we can struggle emotionally to just feel “good enough.” If treatments like Botox/fillers or using your top contouring skills make you feel your best, by all means, go for it.
As mentioned before in Perett's book, In Your Face: The New Science of Human Attraction, women show a stronger attraction toward men with a figure consistent with the ideal hunting physique: strong shoulders, narrow waists, and broad chests and shoulders.
Women tend to feel insecure regarding their physical looks, relationships, and intelligence/professional abilities, whereas men often are more insecure about issues surrounding professional capacities, intelligence, athletic abilities, physical looks, and power.