Seeing as we're generalising, internalising problems is one concern that certainly holds true for a lot of men and encompasses lots of issues. The big worries are obvious and non-gender specific: the career woes, the relationship fears, the stresses over status, the anxieties about body image.
Money and the future
But with this being the number one most common worry, rest assured that almost everyone you know is in the same boat as you, and many are probably even worse off than you.
According to psychologists, men too fear aging but their concerns are slightly different from women's. Even though most men will be damned before they admit it, deep down a lot of them have fears and insecurities concerned with their looks, health and general well-being.
In one large study from the Brookings Institute, for example, scientists found happiness was high for 18- to 21-year-olds and then dropped steadily until about age 40. But past middle age, the pattern began to reverse—gradually climbing back up to its highest point at age 98!
It's a common cliche that older men chase much younger women, but charts from the book "Dataclysm" provide real evidence that men at every age are consistently most attracted to women in their early 20s.
(Note: There are five core fears, or “universal themes of loss,” that capture the basic interpretations of danger that we all make. They are 1) fear of abandonment, 2) loss of identity, 3) loss of meaning, 4) loss of purpose and 5) fear of death, including the fear of sickness and pain.)
1. Death of a spouse. You probably aren't surprised to hear that the death of a spouse is the most stressful event on this list. You'll have lost the partner you've likely spent years with, a parent to your children, a financial supporter, and perhaps most significantly, your biggest source of emotional support.
Unrest always results in worry.
Generalized anxiety disorder, or GAD, is a mental illness. It belongs to a group of illnesses called anxiety disorders. People living with GAD worry much more than other people, and they worry more often than other people.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
According to Steve Harvey, if you provide a man with these three things in a relationship, he won't leave: support, loyalty, and intimacy. Harvey says that men may hide behind their macho demeanors, but in the end they just want to feel special.
The most common fears within relationships may include: intimacy. inadequacy. abandonment.
Anxiety is a feeling of unease, such as worry or fear, that can be mild or severe. Everyone has feelings of anxiety at some point in their life. For example, you may feel worried and anxious about sitting an exam, or having a medical test or job interview.
But if feelings of worry interfere with your daily life and seem to be persistent (there all the time), or are excessive for the situation, or cause you distress, then this is excessive worry and you may have anxiety. Excessive worry is one of the main symptoms of generalised anxiety disorder.
By many metrics, men in their 30s have a lot going for them and could be considered in their prime. Why? They've usually found a comfortable place in life, often including: A good career or a job they love and have been at for a long time.
Men's sex drives seem to peak in their 20s and begin to slowly decrease in their 30s and onward. Men in their 40s and older are also more likely to have problems with sexual function, including erectile dysfunction.
Women and men are considered to be at their most attractive in their thirties, a US survey of 2,000 people has found. The study, carried out by Allure magazine, found women are considered most beautiful at 30, show signs of ageing at 41, stop looking 'sexy' at 53 and are thought of as 'old' at 55.