Specifically, female narcissists are less entitled, impulsive, aggressive, and more empathetic than males diagnosed with NPD. Female narcissists also may display certain distinct traits such as a preoccupation with their appearance or being more prone to envy and jealousy than males.
At the end of a relationship, narcissists may become combative, passive-aggressive, hostile, and even more controlling. People with NPD often fail to understand other people's needs and values. They are hyper focused on their egos, but do not account for how their actions affect others.
They crave attention and being the object of desire. Narcissist women often have ex-partners that they keep ensnared, may instigate love triangles to feel validation, and are prone to cheating both emotionally and physically. Narcissist women are often very seductive.
They will often deploy a variety of narcissistic relationship patterns such as manipulation, charismatic, and exploitational tactics in order to ensure that their own needs and wants are met. As a spouse, you may be the subject of their manipulation and abuse, while your partner treats everyone else positively.
Narcissists' sexual preferences are often very specific. In bed, the narcissist may have very explicit ideas about what their partner should do or even say. They want the narrative to play out in a certain way, and they don't have patience for changes to the script. This has to do with their lack of empathy.
She may become jealous if you talk to other people, or even if you give someone a compliment. This is because, in her mind, she believes that she deserves all of your attention and admiration.
Narcissists tend to be focused on themselves and their own needs, and they don't typically value commitment or loyalty. In many cases, a narcissist may only be committed to acquired things, such as money, or a certain lifestyle – but not another person.
In fact, narcissists are often attracted to strong, confident, and self-assured women. While this may seem counterintuitive, it is important to realize that the narcissistic traits of grandiosity and confidence are really a mask for deep insecurity.
It's important to understand that having narcissistic traits does not mean a person is not able to love someone. The way that features impair functioning in multiple areas — identity, self-direction, empathy, and intimacy — of a person's life is the difference between an NPD diagnosis and having narcissistic traits.
Simply put, anything that jeopardizes their basic needs for superiority can quickly irritate them. If you want to know how to infuriate a narcissist, you can look no further than giving them nothing. But you can also stand up for yourself, set boundaries, and refuse their gaslighting strategies.
Aging narcissists can become more self-centered.
Invisibility tends to happen to all of us as we get older, and we learn how to either make peace with it or come up with our own coping mechanisms. Narcissists do neither and focus on themselves — the one person they love and sometimes hate the most.
Lack of empathy: Narcissistic women lack empathy and rarely think about the feelings of others; instead, they focus solely on their own needs and desires. As such, they can be emotionally abusive and manipulative, often without understanding the impact of their words or actions.
Narcissists can be grandiose when it comes to self-serving, unnecessary spending (i.e., buying a designer watch they can't afford), but skimp on the essentials (i.e., food, health expenses, basic household items).
Key Takeaways. Being manipulative, lack of empathy, and excessive preoccupation with one's own needs are a few traits of a narcissistic wife. Narcissistic wives will restrict you from meeting your family and friends and isolate you from the outside world.
Signs a Narcissist Loves You
They will treat you with respect. They will listen to your feelings. They will respect your boundaries. They will take responsibility for their actions.
"Narcissists are drawn to those who can boost their own self-esteem and validate their sense of importance," Wasser told Insider. "Being associated with someone who is successful or admired can make the narcissist feel more important by proxy."
But this was not the case for narcissists—they were significantly more satisfied with partners who met their ideals for attractiveness, status, and vitality. This shows that not only do narcissists value “trophy” traits in a partner, but they are happier with their relationships when they obtain those traits.