1. Failing. Failure doesn't define you; it's just something we all experience on the way toward achieving goals. “Failure doesn't define you; it's just something we all experience on the way toward achieving goals.” Why are we so afraid of failing?
People who have androphobia have a fear of men. Phobia means fear, and “andros” is the Greek word for man. A person with androphobia experiences extreme anxiety or fear of men. For some people, even images of men bring on immediate phobia symptoms.
Some of humanity's most common phobias are well known, like the fear of heights or of the dark. Others, however, are less expected, like the fear of speaking to strangers due to anxiety about what they might think of you.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
According to recent statistics, the number one fear among men is acrophobia, the fear of heights. The list of things that scare the hell out of guys also include snakes, dentists, injections, thunder, and being maimed. Nearly half of guys are scared of seeing a doctor, and 37 percent are worried about going bald.
We are born with only two innate fears: the fear of falling and the fear of loud sounds. A 1960 study evaluated depth perception among 6- to14-month-old infants, as well as young animals.
For men, failure is all about shame. We didn't just get a C or D on the test. It's much worse than losing the game or an account that didn't pan out. And rejection by a woman is nearly fatal to a man's self-esteem (which is all too fragile due to relentless and unreasonable performance demands).
According to Soukup's study, the fear archetypes include: The Procrastinator, the Rule Follower, the People Pleaser, the Outcast, the Self-Doubter, the Excuse Maker, and the Pessimist.
Cardiovascular disease: the leading men's health threat
You may not be able to change those factors, but you can reduce your risk by: Managing your blood pressure, cholesterol, and diabetes. Eating a healthy diet and exercising regularly. Not smoking and limiting alcohol use.
He Doesn't Know How to Be Vulnerable
Your guy may have a fear of love simply because he doesn't know how to be vulnerable. That may be because he put up his wall after past hurts or because he's only had casual relationships that didn't require vulnerability and trust.
Men's fears of women can be hidden but powerful. Men can be afraid of being dominated, controlled, or abandoned by women. Men can be afraid of being inadequate with women.
Examples of innate fear include fears that are triggered by predators, pain, heights, rapidly approaching objects, and ancestral threats such as snakes and spiders. Animals and humans detect and respond more rapidly to threatening stimuli than to nonthreatening stimuli in the natural world.
Fear of the unknown is universal, but it seems to take form most commonly in three basic human fundamental fears: Fear of Death, Fear of Abandonment or Fear of Failure.
Broadly speaking, intimacy means deeply knowing someone, while also feeling deeply known yourself. It is something humans crave, and though at times, it may seem more difficult for men to express it, that doesn't mean they don't need or want it.
Men experience difficulty being vulnerable due to societal pressures of masculinity. You may feel the need to “man-up” or uphold a callous, tough self-image. You might hold yourself back from displaying emotions other than anger or happiness. Feelings of sadness, grief, and loneliness might be pushed deep down for men.
The biggest secret about why men find vulnerability attractive, in the bedroom or otherwise, is this: We need women to inspire us to show our deeper feelings, so we can feel safer with them and they can feel safer with us. But it's hard for men to be emotionally vulnerable even though, deep down, they want to be.
We can put most of these fears into four categories and in this “How to Master Fear” series we'll refer to as the “big four fears”: fear of failure, fear of success, fear of rejection and fear of selling.
What could be the signs a guy is scared of his feelings for you? His behavior may seem a little detached, disinterested, or withdrawn. Well, some men could be afraid of heartbreak, embarrassment, or rejection. Though he likes you, his fears may not let him come close to you.
When it comes to men and intimacy and why men fear intimacy, sometimes the solution to the problem isn't that simple. Some of the reasons why men struggle with intimacy are linked to childhood abuse, abuse from a previous relationship, issues related to low self-esteem, and low self-esteem in bed while performing.
“A man will commit when he feels a deep connection with a woman that he doesn't feel with anyone else; when he finds a lover who is also his best friend that makes him feel special and unique,” Tripp says.