They use anger and aggression as a tool Some bosses can lose their temper on occasion. But narcissistic bosses use anger and aggression as a “manipulation tool” to control employees at work, Morin says. Those bosses might pound their fist on a desk, raise their voice or humiliate employees who speak out against them.
Narcissistic bosses will start being cold or cruel towards their employee as a way of trying to maintain control over them even after the relationship has ended, because this narcissistic boss believes that if someone leaves, then he or she must be "better" than them, which feeds the person's false sense of superiority ...
They Are Envious of Others
Because of their low self-esteem and need to be superior to others, narcissists see people who have things they lack—such as tangible items, status, or admiration—as threats.
Respond, don't react.
The worst thing you can do with a narcissist is to shine a spotlight on their bad behavior--they thrive on attention. Instead, learn to respond in affective way that keeps you in control of options and choices. If you feel yourself reacting, step away and regain back your control.
A narcissist is likely to be enraged when they begin to lose control. They may lash out at you, go on a smear campaign, or purposefully ignore you. They may also lovebomb you to reel you back in. Their main goal is to get your attention, provoke a response, and regain power.
However many narcissists do achieve positions of authority chiefly perhaps due to ruthless competitiveness and empire building Narcissism is positively related to counterproductive workplace behaviours; initiating rumours, sabotage and ridicule of others efforts, aggression, wasting other employees time, anti-team ...
They Have Grandiose Fantasies
On the outside, a person with covert narcissism will seem quiet, meek, and self-critical. However, on the inside, they feel an intense sense of specialness. Despite their jealousy, envy, and apparent shyness, covert narcissists will believe they are better than everyone else.
The manager is primarily concerned with their career and disinterested in the growth of their staff. The workplace becomes toxic as narcissists create friction, tension and drama to gain a continual flow of attention. A disturbing element of narcissists is that they are drawn to power and are status seekers.
According to Julie L. Hall, author of “The Narcissist in Your Life: Recognizing the Patterns and Learning to Break Free,” narcissists become more extreme versions of their worst selves as they age, which includes becoming more desperate, deluded, paranoid, angry, abusive, and isolated.
A monumental weakness in the narcissist is the failure to look internally and flesh out what needs to be worked on. Then, of course, the next step is to spend time improving. The narcissist sabotages any possibility of looking deep within.
Idealization. The first stage in a narcissistic relationship is “idealization” and is perhaps the most dangerous of them all. This is how they hook you! This phase always occurs right at the beginning of any relationship with a narcissist, and is where they will make you feel truly special.
Often manipulative, always demeaning, sometimes verbally abusive. Sometimes the abuse is couched in seemingly nice or professional language or context. If you are targeted they often call for unnecessary meetings with you. They undermine your person and/or your work product making you feel unnecessary or stupid.
Another common trait of narcissism is manipulative or controlling behavior. A narcissist will at first try to please you and impress you, but eventually, their own needs will always come first. When relating to other people, narcissists will try to keep people at a certain distance in order to maintain control.
It comes hand-in-hand with this that narcissists hate being criticised or called out. Which is exactly why there's one word in particular narcissistic people cannot stand: "no".
By pretending they can still be loving, the narcissist makes their victim believe the insults are their own fault. During this phase narcissists may utter some of these phrases: "You're crazy." "You're too sensitive." "No wonder nobody else likes you."