" If you want to change the ways others treat you, you should first change the way you treat yourself. Unless you learn to love yourself, fully and sincerely, there is no way you can be loved. Once you achieve that stage, however, be thankful for every thorn that others might throw at you.
Rule 8 of love by Shams Tabrizi Patience does not mean to passively endure. It means to look at the end of a process. What does patience mean? It means to look at the thorn and see the rose, to look at the night and see the dawn.
"Fret not where the road will take you. Instead concentrate on the first step. That is the hardest part and that is what you are responsible for.
Rule 17. The whole universe is contained within a single human being — you. Everything that you see around, including the things that you might not be fond of and even the people you despise or abhor, is present within you in varying degrees.
Rule 4. Intellect and Love are made of different materials. Intellect ties people in knots and risks nothing, but love dissolves all tangles and risks everything. Intellect is always cautious and advises, 'Beware too much ecstasy,' whereas Love says, 'Oh, never mind!
Rule #2: You Can't Crush on Your Sworn Enemy (The Rules of Love)
Rule 33. While everyone in this World strives to get somewhere and become someone, only to leave it all behind after death, you aim for the highest stage of nothingness. Live this life as light and empty as the number zero. We are no different from a pot.
The Forty Rules of Love: Rule # 13 by Shams Tabrizi. Try not to resist the changes, which come your way. the side you are used to is better than the one to come?
Rule 29. Destiny doesn't mean that your life has been strictly predetermined. Therefore, to leave everything to fate and to not actively contribute to the music of the universe is a sign of sheer ignorance.
Rule 36 "This world is erected upon the principle of reciprocity. Neither a drop of kindness nor a speck of evil will remain unreciprocated.
According to the rule, the age of the younger partner (regardless of gender) should be no less than seven more than half the older partner's age.
We all give and receive love in 5 different ways: words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. These are called 'love languages' - a concept created by Dr. Gary Chapman through his long-time work as a marriage counsellor.
Rule 31 states that 'nothing forbids one woman being loved two men or one man by two women' andyet clearly it is stated that there can be no duplicity of heart. This the, can only apply before the beloved has committed himself or herself to one of the admirers.
Rule 21When a true lover of God goes into a tavern, the tavern becomes his chamber of prayer, but when a winebibber goes into the same chamber, it becomes his tavern. In everything we do, it is our hearts that make the difference, not our outer appearance.
Insight 39 While the part change, the whole always remains the same. For every thief who departs this world, a new one is born.
It is fiction not based on Islam or Sufism. At best, it is loosely inspired by some generic tenets found in Sufism. The book does not instill any real Islamic values. Its protagonist is a woman who justifies her own affair through fabricated values and rules attributed to Rumi or Tabriz.
Rule no 40
Don't ask yourself what kind of love you should seek, spiritual or material, divine or mundane, Eastern or Western. Divisions only lead to more divisions. Love has no labels, no definitions. It is what it is, pure and simple.
“The forty rules of love” by Elif Shafak is divided into five parts – earth, water, wind, fire and the void, the five elements that constitute the universe. There is a constant shift between centuries and perspectives but the writing style is smooth and spectacular.
1 Don't Question Your Lover's Intent
A relationship involves unwavering trust, even when it doesn't make sense. So, one of the golden rules of love is to not question your lover's intent. You need to trust them and rest assured that they have your best interest at heart.
Respect each other and each other's desire for privacy. Be tolerant. Be patient; it is foolish to fuss over small things. Never let the sun set on your anger.
The Forty Rules of Love is written by Elif Shafak, a French born Turkish writer.
Rule 33(d) states that a party electing to respond to an interrogatory by providing electronically stored information must ensure that the interrogating party can locate and identify it “as readily as can the party served,” and that the responding party must give the interrogating party a “reasonable opportunity to ...
Anyway, I think you should read The Forty Rules of Love if you want to read about spirituality, God & the love within ourselves. If you like reading fiction which reads like nonfiction, then you can try out this book.
This art of story in literature is called “juxtaposition”. There are four main characters in the story; Ela, Aziz, Shams, and Rumi.