In conclusion, the INFJ personality type has a dark side that is often overlooked. INFJs can be emotionally overwhelmed, stubborn, defensive, and honest to the point of being blunt or rude. They may struggle with stress, conflict, high expectations, and accepting change.
Some INFJs get so fixated on getting their timing just right, and making their plan absolutely flawless, that they never take action or they miss an opportunity. INFJs experiencing “grip stress” can become uncharacteristically pleasure-seeking, impulsive, and self-destructive.
The demon is the most suppressed area of your unconscious personality. This function is how you will take in information when you are at your very worst and most destructive; when your ego is severely threatened and at risk of obliteration.
Kindness. As sensitive personalities, INFJs feel attracted to people who show kindness towards others.
INFJs' only true enemy is themselves, or more specifically, their inner critic. However, some personality types may be difficult for INFJs to get along with including: ESTJs: They are often seen as being too blunt, dominant, and insensitive for INFJs.
INFJs are hardworking perfectionists—and their biggest fear is failure. An INFJs fear of failure can transform into a fear of a failed relationship and subsequent abandonment, a fear of not achieving a goal, or deep-seated fear of not being “good enough.” If those things terrify you, you might be an INFJ.
At their best, INFJs make modest, reliable teammates, and allow others to take the lead. INFJs may undervalue their own needs, ideas, and contributions, acting overly shy and not taking credit when due. At their worst, INFJs can be excessively submissive, ineffectual, and too dependent on direction from others.
INFJ: Superficiality
Superficial conversations about gossipy topics or small talk don't usually interest an INFJ, so it can be a major turn-off when someone is too eager to stick to the surface level of communication. Shallow conversations and frivolous topics can make an INFJ feel bored, disconnected, and uninspired.
INFP is the type most commonly mistaken for INFJ, and they use Ne as their co-pilot process. If Signs 1 and 5 are both sound true for you there's a very good chance you're an INFP.
INFJ – Hestia
She's a protector with the power of elemental nature behind her who can cause volcanos when she's angry. In keeping with an INFJ's interest in harmony and peacekeeping, Hestia wouldn't participate the quarrels of other gods or go to war with them.
If INFJs are in a state of grip stress they can be more harsh, reactive, blunt, and critical than usual. They might tear down relationships, plans, or even physical objects around them in a state of self-destructive fury.
INFJs' sensitivity means they have a deep appreciation for beauty and the arts. They can be moved to tears by music, art, theatre, books, films, food or flowers.
Healing from trauma and dealing with past pain requires the INFJ to open up to true vulnerability. This means acknowledging the past — good and bad moments — and remaining open to healing and growing from these events.
The inferior cognitive function of INFJs (the weakest part of their personality) is Extraverted Sensing; this helps them live in the present moment and be aware of the world around them.
Because INFJs rarely engage with others or open up deeply once they do, they can have an air of quiet mystery and capability around them. This can intimidate others who aren't familiar with the quirks of the INFJ personality type.
Their perfectionism can drive others away.
INFJs are perfectionists. Their compulsion for perfection can be harmful to the INFJ themselves, but it can also push people away.
Ni-dominant types (INTJs and INFJs) often need considerable quiet time to themselves to think and focus. Interruptions, noise, and excessive sensory stimulation will push an INFJ to the edge of their comfort zone.
Take a look at these common everyday stressors for INFJs: having conflicts with others, or having someone upset with you (feeling nature) being told of last-minute changes (judging nature) large group activities (introverted nature)
Leaders and curious individuals tend to be most attracted to INFJs. This is so because the INFJ exudes an aura of mystery, and they are often misunderstood, for they are the rarest personality type. As such, many ENTJs find themselves attracted to this personality type.
INFJs tend to be guarded about their physical space, except for when it comes to family and VERY close friends. If they're finding excuses to touch your hand, bump up against you, or hug you, then it probably means they have feelings for you.
Because of our passionate need for meaningful connection, we INFJs can get jealous easily when we see other people connecting and having fun. We might compare ourselves to them, or worse yet, when someone close to us has friends of their own, we might pull away, feeling unwanted and pathetic.
Usually, INFJs prefer not to go out to bars, clubs, or parties where there are a lot of strangers. These types of outings are usually socially draining, and they tend to lack the meaningful connection that INFJs crave. Most INFJs recognize that their aversion to social situations prevents them from making new friends.
Technically it is supposed to be an ENTP or ENFP. I would also consider INFP having seen the two interact. Since INFJ has introverted intuition as their dominant function they are most compatible with other intuitives: NT and NF.
The best matches for INFJs include intuitive types such as INTJ, INFP, and ENFJ. INFJs are the least compatible with sensors, especially ESTJs, ESTPs, and ESFPs. INFJ-INFJ relationships can be emotionally fulfilling yet difficult if both INFJs aren't willing to openly discuss relationship problems.