“You're a bad mom” Kids are often quick to say this phrase when they don't agree with a decision a parent made or when they're not allowed to do something that everyone else their age is doing.
Never insult your parents' appearance: Telling them they are fat or that they don't know how to dress is insulting your parents and is very hurtful. The way they look probably has a lot to do with the sacrifices they made to give you a better life. Try complimenting them every now and then.
When your child says hurtful things to you, it's usually an expression of frustration or loss of control. Parents often forget that kids are communicating with brains that are not fully formed. The mean words are their way of expressing feelings rather than describing their actual feelings about you.
Rather than criticizing your parents, use I statements and express how you feel. For example, say something like, "Mom, I feel like you're dismissing me when you talk to me that way." You could also say, "Mom, I feel hurt when you yell at me." If you want them to listen, you need to be willing to listen as well.
The most common toxic behavior of parents is to criticize their child, express self-wishes, complain about the difficulties of raising a child, make unhealthy comparisons, and make hurtful statements1.
“ You're *#@! % stupid. ” “ I wish you were never born. ” “ No one is ever going to love you, you're so *#@! % fat and ugly. ” “ You never get anything right. ” “ You're worthless. ” These are mean and degrading things to say to someone.
Things kids say, to the untrained ear, sound mean, rude, and even exclusionary. In reality, these things are developmentally normal ways of learning to set boundaries. They are more crude and rudimentary because they are just learning how to communicate; their brains are not fully developed yet.
This could be for various reasons such as not wanting to admit they were wrong, not wanting to accept the responsibility, or feeling embarrassed. "Parents find it difficult to apologize as ego often comes in the way," says Aparna Samuel Balasundaram. "They also feel that the child might take advantage of the situation.
Disrespectful behavior often comes down to kids having poor problem-solving skills and a lack of knowledge about how to be more respectful as they pull away. Often when kids separate from you they do it all wrong before they learn how to do it right.
When school-age children and pre-teens swear, it's usually to express negative feelings. It's often a response to something painful, upsetting or frustrating. Children might also swear to fit in socially. They might be trying to be part of the group, or to stand out by being funny or adding shock value to their talk.
A lot of anger in children is usually a sign that they are frustrated or in distress. It's important to identify the source. There can be many underlying causes, including autism, ADHD, anxiety, or learning disorders.
For children, anger issues often accompany other mental health conditions, including ADHD, autism, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and Tourette's syndrome. Genetics and other biological factors are thought to play a role in anger/aggression. Environment is a contributor as well.
Common Behaviors of Spoiled Children
Doesn't follow rules or cooperate with suggestions. Doesn't respond to "no," "stop," or other commands. Protests everything. Makes unfair or excessive demands on others.
sadist. noun. someone who gets pleasure from hurting or being cruel to someone else.
There are different types of parents and parenting styles, and most want the best for their kids. But some go over the boundaries and become toxic parents. Worse, they don't even know they're being toxic, maybe because their parents brought them up the same way.
Parents are strict for various reasons, some good and some self-serving. Some strict parents have high expectations. They teach their children self-discipline by holding them accountable. These parents have their kids' best interests at heart.
Effects of Toxic Parents
Toxic parents can have negative effects on children throughout their lifespan, including mental health disorders, depression, anxiety, drug and alcohol use, etc. Young children often show signs early on that their relationship with their parents is affecting their mental and physical health.
The parents even called the age of 8 the "hateful eights," which is a little harsh, but the parents noted that tantrums seem to have really intensified around the age of 8.