Start by spending some time working through your feelings, such as by talking with someone, writing about it, or even seeing a therapist if you are very upset. You can also help yourself by avoiding spending time around your crush and by distracting yourself with fun activities.
You're not compatible with him
You are still wondering, “He likes me but started dating someone else…why?” Maybe he is not sure about you. Perhaps your value systems are too different. Maybe your goals don't align. Maybe he needs his partner to have a similar love language as him.
It's not uncommon to be attracted to more than one person at the same time. But whether or not you act on those feelings won't only affect you. If you want to date more than one person, make sure that everyone involved understands this and is okay with it. Also, be sure beforehand that you can handle it.
He may be into you if he texts you often and showers you with attention on social media. He may like you if he dresses up to hang out with you or openly flirts with you. If he asks for your advice or confides in you rather than his girlfriend, he might like you.
In general, he just seems to be energetically drawn to you in the room—as if his focus, body language, and general energy all just seem to be kind of focused on you. Even when he's off talking to someone else, there still seems to be the vibe that he's paying attention to you.
One way you can let go of jealousy is to stop comparing yourself to others. Accept that you can't change your crush's mind right now. Stop obsessing about your crush and focus on other things, like yourself, your friends, or your interests.
Finding someone else attractive while in a relationship is an entirely normal phenomenon many people experience. While crushes are more likely to sprout up while you are going through a rough patch with your partner, they can strike at any time.
You could be suffering from Limerence — a cognitive state of obsession and infatuation. You may be fixated with having your feelings reciprocated. You refuse to give up because you know it's meant to be. Very common in the world of Twin Flames.
The same interests and values may also be a powerful way people are drawn to someone. When two people have similar hobbies, goals, or beliefs, it might create a sense of connection and compatibility. Emotional connection is another reason why people may feel drawn to each other.
Guys that are into you often use lots of emojis, text first, or even double text. Watch for in-person signs, like holding eye contact, respectful little touches, or leaning in close. A follow-up text after a date or hangout, or a raincheck when he can't make it are sure signs that he wants to spend more time with you.
A guy who likes you will always be nice and polite in his approach towards you and he will always look for avenues to spend more time alone with you and get to know more about you- either by going on a date, through constant phone calls or chats- the subtle signs are always there if you pay close attention.
It's quite possible a guy can like you and still have a girlfriend. It's not something we usually address, especially in monogamous relationships, but people often have feelings (ranging from fleeting to long-lasting) for someone other than their partner.
"One of the big red flags of a situationship is that all communication is inconsistent. You may get a text or a call from the other individual but without any normal pattern," Cooper says.
Enter the 2-2-2 rule: Try and swing a date night every two weeks, a weekend away every two months and a week away every two years. The rule has its origins on a Reddit thread from 2015 and has in recent weeks reappeared on social media as a form of relationship advice.
The three-date rule roughly dates back to the early '90s. It states that if you are seeing someone new, you should wait for a third date before having sex with them (Remember what Carrie Bradshaw and her friends say in Sex and the City?).