They love you, it's a love bite! My cats occasionally grab my hand and bite and lick me. If you have the same experience, you should be aware that this behavior can be your cat's way of telling you they love you. They got an instinct from their mother when their cat was a kitten.
Why does my cat grab my hand and bite me? Cats are natural born hunters so if your cat grabs and bites your hand, it is replicating hunting behaviour and pretending your hand is the prey.
Hugging your arm or leg and biting you is a classic cat hunting move. When cats catch large prey, they will often grasp it with their front legs and then bite it while 'bunny kicking' with their back legs. If your cat is doing this to you, they are misdirecting their hunting behaviour onto you.
Scientists who study cat behavior call this distinctive paw action “kneading” and believe it to be a sign of a relaxed cat. My own cats knead before taking a nap near me. While they are kneading, they purr – one of them gets so relaxed, he sometimes drools. Kneading usually occurs near a favorite person.
A cat that suddenly begins biting when they never did before is most likely in pain. In the wild, it's not a good thing for a cat to show that they are weak or in pain, and they will usually hide this behind aggression. If you suspect your cat is in pain, contact your vet immediately.
Sensitivity threshold: The cat enjoys the human contact at first, but then the repetitiveness of the petting becomes irritating. The cat turns and bites as a way to say, “I've had enough.” An analogy to human behavior can be made. If someone pats you on the back, it feels good.
Say something: Startle your cat with a loud "ouch" or another word to end any rough behavior. This is effective for cats that are aggressive with people and may bite or grab onto your arm or leg. Then immediately remove yourself from the cat.
Love bites
Some cats may gently nibble or bite their owners as a sign of affection. It is thought to be reminiscent of how a mother cat will groom her kittens with small bites and is more common in cats who have had litters.
Cat biting when playing
Cats often bite during play because they are expressing their natural hunting instinct. For kittens, biting and bunny-kicking are normal play behaviours. They play like this with their littermates and mothers and it mimics how they pounce, grab and bite their prey.
Affection: The Love Bite
If your cat licks then bites you out of the blue then you might be in the presence of a love bite, lucky you! This is a very common (and usually gentle) interaction with cats, especially kittens. If your cat does this they might be trying to show you affection.
PetMD also points out that cats are territorial creatures. They claim their turf by marking it with their scent. So when they sleep on top of you, they're actually marking you—and your bed—as theirs. We should be flattered by this behavior, apparently.
It probably feels like your four-legged fur baby has got it in for you, but these perceived acts of aggression are actually an indicator of affection. That can be quite difficult to fathom, right? But it's true; they're actually “love bites” rather than a defense mechanism.
Some Bites are Little Love Bites
They might just gently nip at your skin, generally, not hard enough to draw blood. Your best clue that it's just a little love bite is that your cat may run away or otherwise act like they want to play, but cats can also use love bites to try to communicate with you.
A cat's typical response when its belly is touched is to go into defensive mode – they swat or scratch and may even gently bite. Your cat's not being mean, it's simply a natural reflex of protection. This stems from their natural instincts as both predators and prey.
The cat begs for attention and loves the petting, but then bites you after only a few strokes. These cats use the “leave me alone” bite to stop interactions such as petting, being lifted or approached, or being moved from a favorite perch. It's a very common behavior in cats, but you can work with your pet to stop it.
"Cats should never be directly punished, verbally or physically. Where some owners will clap their hands, stomp their feet, or jingle coins in a can to teach a dog that their behavior is unacceptable, this method will backfire with a cat," said Hauser.
Our team of vets agree that using water bottles to discipline cats isn't the best course of action. According to Dr. Dwight Alleyne, “Spraying cats with water can create a negative association with humans. As a result, they may become more anxious or even aggressive over time.”
If your cat is very agitated, walk away from the cat. If your cat is on your lap, stand up slowly and let them gently slide off. Wait some time before attempting to pet again. Some cats only take a few minutes to settle down, while others can take several hours.
Getting your attention
Some cats have learned that biting their human will get them the attention they crave. These felines will usually not really bite, but rather give you a small nip to remind you that you are not paying enough attention to them.
There's a difference between rough play and aggression
During fun play, ears and tails will be straight up in the air. There may be some hissing, but play is usually quiet. If you notice a cat's ears turn toward the back of the head (“airplane ears”) or you hear growling, the play has tipped over into aggression.
In the process, they release pheromones, chemicals that serve not only to mark the cat, person, or object as their own, but also reduce stress in the rubbing cat. Cats who mouth or love bite their humans are taking this type of marking behavior to a more extreme position, if you will.
"Sploot" is a slang term for the position pets take when they lay on their stomach with their legs stretched out behind them.
Sleeping near you
If your kitty likes to sleep near you - or even on you - this is an indication that they have total trust in you.