Yes, guys sometimes wait for you to text first.
Remember that every guy is different. While some guys like to make the first move, others are a bit shy.
He doesn't want to seem too clingy
He may really like you, but he's afraid of applying too much pressure. So, instead of texting you first, he's waiting a few days to text you. He might say that he's busy. In this situation, you might need to quit texting him first.
There are no hard and fast rules when it comes to texting your partner—you might text each other every day, or you might only check in a few times per week. However, in a new relationship, you might notice that you and your boo text more often than you usually would.
Quick responses generally mean he likes you.
If he responds to your messages quickly all the time, it's a great sign he's interested. Try this: Ask him: “What're you up to?” and check both how fast he replies and what he says.
He finds small ways to compliment you.
Battle says people tend to find small ways to compliment someone they're interested in. So if a guy keeps genuinely complimenting everything from your eyes to your creative endeavors, that could be a sign they're really into you.
Dry texting is what happens when someone gives you short, non-engaging replies in a texting conversation. It can also be super repetitive and just plain boring, says Claudia Cox, a relationship coach and founder of Text Weapon.
There are no specific times a guy should text you when he likes you, but he must be consistent. A guy who genuinely likes you will text you at least once a day. Also, after a discussion about getting to know each other, he will randomly text to check up on you and text you good morning and good night.
Waiting 2–3 days or up to a week before reaching out gives him a chance to text you first once he realizes what he's missing. If you've waited more than a week and still haven't heard back from him, it might be time to move on. It's really hard when a guy flakes out on you, but there are other people out there for you!
However, a guy could hold himself back from texting you even when he likes you because he may want to play it cool; he could be shy or because of another factor. So, please don't assume that a guy's lack of communication is related to his negative impression of you or your relationship with him.
A genuine guy who thinks a lot about you may avoid texting you first just not to irritate you. Maybe you told him before about a clingy guy in the past who always pestered you with his annoying messages and calls. So, to avoid being in your bad books, he may be deliberately avoiding texting you first.
He might be shy, he might be unsure of himself and his feelings,… there are many reasons. The most important thing is if you're interested in him then you should initiate contact first! Be confident and be brave.
But you shouldn't take it personally as there could be many reasons behind your guy not texting you back for extended periods. For instance, he might be busy at work or in the personal sphere, hoping that you would text him first, doesn't want to sound needy, or is simply not good with virtual communication.
If you're wondering, “does he like me or not?” make sure to observe his actions. If he doesn't tell you he's attracted to you, you can tell by his body language and how his eyes move around. He might give you intense eye contact and look at your chest or check you out when you're across the room.
Think about what you would say. You have a big crush and his phone number, but do you have anything interesting to say? If you can't think of anything relevant to say and you just want to get that text back, then don't text him. Wait until you have a topic of conversation, or until he texts you first.
If a guy texts you and doesn't get a response, and then texts again, maybe he's worried you're not into him. He could be overthinking your replies just as much as you're mulling over his. Just keep an eye on what kind of double texts he's sending.
The Compliment Text
Here are a couple of such examples of these texts that will make him chase you: "I just wanted to say how much I enjoy your sense of humor." You always manage to make me laugh." "That was such a thoughtful gesture you made yesterday. It really meant a lot to me."
Cold texting is reaching out via SMS to a contact without their prior consent or permission. It's similar to cold calling and cold emailing. Some examples that would lead to cold texting include: Purchasing a contact list from a third party. Finding customers' phone information online.
“Bad at texting” is a red flag
If the person you're dating is “bad at texting” and they don't make an effort to communicate with you in other ways, they're probably not interested. … Or, they're giving the bare-minimum effort in order to keep you around without investing too much of their own effort.
He initiates text conversations
If he's seeking you out, it's because he likes you. Guys just don't go around texting someone first that they don't want to talk to.
Another clear sign he likes you is if he is actively trying to hang out with you, or help you, or find out more about you. There are also indicators like eye contact or compliments, and showing that he's interested in your physical appearance, or who you are as a person.
You Can Feel It
This one is probably a no-brainer; when someone is attracted to you, they want to touch you. Touch releases the bonding hormone oxytocin. So, it is an instinctive way of trying to strengthen your connection. However, not all touches mean the same thing.