With ADHD, traditional methods of discipline aren't always the best fit. Shift your mindset from “I have to discipline my child” and get curious about how to help them improve their skills. Taking an attitude of, “What can I do to help them” instead of “How can I get them to do what I want” is a game-changer.
Individuals with ADHD tend to have a deficit in self- discipline. They tend to give up easily on tasks, become quickly bored with tasks, display frequent impulsive behaviors, and have difficulty sustaining effort and attention. One quality that all of these difficulties have in common is poor impulse control.
Barkley, Ph. D., responds: It seems paradoxical that children with ADHD can maintain focus on things that interest them but can't stick with other things, like homework. Such behavior suggests that the child with ADHD is being willfully disobedient or that a lack of discipline and poor motivation are the problems.
Some ideas for strategies include deep breathing, visualising one's lips staying closed, walking away, paraphrasing the other person's statement before responding. Practicing meditation and mindfulness may also improve the ability to pause. Get to know how their unique brain works, their strengths and their challenges.
ADHD can also cause challenges with self-control. And sometimes what looks like a lack of self-control is actually a lack of social skills. It's hard for kids to follow social rules if they don't know when they're breaking them.
When a person has ADHD, it is common for her to engage in negative “self-talk,” a constant stream of thinking that is self-critical. This can lead to or aggravate depression, anxiety, or feelings of hopelessness. Learning coping strategies like self-compassion can help to more effectively manage thoughts and emotions.
The ADHD nervous system is overwhelmed by life experiences because its intensity is so high. The ADHD nervous system is rarely at rest. It wants to be engaged in something interesting and challenging. Attention is never “deficit.” It is always excessive, constantly occupied with internal reveries and engagements.
People with symptoms of impulsivity often: Are impatient with waiting their turn or waiting in line. Blurt out answers before questions have been completed. Interrupt or intrude on others, such as butting into conversations or games.
Kids with ADHD act out because their hyperactive and impulsive symptoms can make it hard for them to follow rules and meet expectations for their behavior. This can lead to negative interactions with caregivers and teachers, which can cause kids more stress and make it even harder for them to control their behavior.
Low Frustration Tolerance
Most people with ADHD have a very low frustration tolerance. They can be overly emotional about the stressors they experience. They don't have a barrier that allows them to set aside uncomfortable emotions, and they often become completely flooded by a feeling, making it unbearable.
People with ADHD can find it difficult to suppress impulses, which means they may not stop to consider a situation, or the consequences, before they act.
Untreated ADHD in adults can lead to mental health disorders like anxiety and depression. This is because ADHD symptoms can lead to focus, concentration, and impulsivity problems. When these problems are not managed effectively, they can lead to feelings of frustration, irritability, and low self-esteem.
Can you take on a management or leadership position with ADHD? Absolutely! Not only that, the structure of management in many organizations can be the perfect fit for the way your ADHD brain works.
Type Three is Over-Focused ADD. This includes the primary ADHD symptoms plus trouble shifting attention, being stuck on negative thoughts and behaviors, holding grudges, excessive worrying and being argumentative. People with over-focused ADD tend to need a strict routine.
Problems with emotional dysregulation, in particular with anger reactivity, are very common in people with ADHD. You are not alone in struggling in this area. Anger may indicate an associated mood problem but often is just part of the ADHD.
The DSM-IV diagnosis of ADHD in adults and children describes three different subtypes: those who have six or more symptoms of inattention and hyperactive/impulsive symptoms are considered combined subtype (ADHD-C), while those who only meet this criteria for attention are considered inattentive subtype (ADHD-I), and ...
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These may include hyperfocus, resilience, creativity, conversational skills, spontaneity, and abundant energy. Many people view these benefits as “superpowers” because those with ADHD can hone them to their advantage. People with ADHD have a unique perspective that others may find interesting and valuable.
Adults and children with ADHD have lower levels of dopamine, which limits their brains ability to both recognize rewards and seek them out. This results in a lack of motivation. Without recognizing rewards, the body is unmotivated to act in any direction.
For many people with ADHD, their speech, language, and communication skills are significantly affected. Individuals with ADHD are at a higher risk of developing articulation disorders, issues with speech fluency, and a decrease in the overall quality and tone of their speaking voice.
A: ADHD brains need more sleep, but find it doubly difficult to achieve restfulness. It is one of those ADHD double whammies: ADHD makes it harder to get enough sleep, and being sleep deprived makes it harder to manage your ADHD (or anything else).
Pragmatics and ADHD
Blurting out answers, interrupting, talking excessively and speaking too loudly all break common communication standards, for example. People with ADHD also often make tangential comments in conversation, or struggle to organize their thoughts on the fly.