However, time and time again, INFJs have told me that they get uncomfortably awkward around their crushes. They giggle more, trip over things more, and make self-deprecating jokes to try to ease the tension.
Yes, we INFJs usually know when someone likes us. But we're often in denial about it. INFJs tend to be really good at reading people and their emotions. This means we're usually very aware when someone likes someone else.
Still, there comes a time when we realize, for one reason or another, we need to move on from an unrequited crush. Because INFJs aren't known for letting go of things easily, letting something like this go can be especially hard for them.
As the "Counselor" archetype of Myers Briggs personality theory, they are deeply empathetic and often understand others better than they understand themselves. They work hard for the common good, commit, and follow through. And they are perhaps more likely than any other personality type to experience anxiety.
Loyalty. Loyalty is not only a quality that INFJs are attracted to, but also something they expect to find in a future partner.
However, time and time again, INFJs have told me that they get uncomfortably awkward around their crushes. They giggle more, trip over things more, and make self-deprecating jokes to try to ease the tension.
Because they feel so misunderstood, INFJs don't often share their deep feelings with others. INFJs can be very eager to please because they feel other people's emotions so intensely and want them to be happy. But they can easily take on too much responsibility for people who should be standing on their own two feet.
It's still good for them to express their feelings, but they usually do that for validation and acceptance. They already know what their feelings are. INFJs, in contrast, often externalize their feelings to get advice, to sort them out, to understand them.
Reading too much into a situation
INFJs can appear very awkward when their intuition kicks in and they start reading into a situation. For instance, if someone is being sweeter to the boss than usual, you may infer that they are doing it to get ahead at work.
INTP (“The Logician”)
In the world of personality theory, the INTP and INFJ pairing has been nicknamed “The Golden Pair” because these two types can be highly compatible.
INFJs will not reveal their feelings to someone they love or admire until they are absolutely sure that the person feels the same way.
They need some time to open up and feel comfortable enough to show their feelings. Once they do, they'll turn into your guardian angel. You'll know unmistakably that an INFJ has fallen in love with you. They will shower you with tenderness, listen to your thoughts and concerns, and do everything to make you happy.
INFJs have unique needs and expectations when it comes to romantic relationships and you may struggle to find someone who matches you intellectually and emotionally.
INFJs' Two Favorite Love Languages
There are five different love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, or Physical Touch. From what I've seen online and the INFJs I've talked with, Quality Time and Words of Affirmation are the two most popular love languages for INFJs.
Women with the INFJ personality type
INFJ Females tend to be reserved, empathetic people. They are likely to value healthy structure and stability, while tending to remain open to new ideas and solutions. They often have a natural desire to help others and make moral choices.
As an INFJ you need to be able to “talk out” your feelings, but some types are less confident in their ability to do this. Thinking-Judging types, for example, tend to struggle with externalizing their emotions. They're more likely to show their affection through acts of service or verbalize their thoughts and plans.
Because they are often reserved, high-achieving individuals with high expectations of both themselves and others, INFJs can be intimidating to other personality types. Since INFJs are also the rarest personality type, many people misunderstand them.
Although they are kind and gentle people, INFJs can be intimidating. Most people find INFJs intimidating because of their general demeanor, especially when they're surrounded by strangers. While they may appear arrogant and intimidating, INFJs are simply shy and private.
To open up, you're going to have to recognize and accept that your feelings are just as important as the feelings and needs of others. Writing is a useful tool for the INFJ wishing to hone their self-expression. Grab a journal or open up a Word document and let the feelings flow.
Extraverted Feeling is what INFJs use when they have to interact with the outside world. It's also a decision-making function. This means when INFJs decide what to do about something they'll look outside themselves.
INFJs can be completely oblivious
INFJs are observant and intuitive. We're good at picking up on the emotions of others.
INFJs never make the first move.
It's not completely impossible for an INFJ to make the first move, but it's highly unlikely for an INFJ to put themselves out there, especially with a stranger. Even when an INFJ knows that the other person is into them, they probably still won't make the first move.
So why do some of us do this? Obsessive crushes aren't just frustrating - they could be a type of addiction, according to researchers. Dr Gery Karantzas, an Associate Professor at Deakin University studying love and relationships, said some of us get an emotional "reward" from fantasising about a crush.