Although there are times when introverts enjoy the rush of physical affection, other times, when they are drained or tired, touch can feel invasive and overstimulating. On the other hand, extroverts gain energy when they are close to others, so physical contact with their partner is a pick-me-up.
Depending on each individual introvert's willingness to speak on the phone, taking your call or calling you of their own accord can also be a sign of affection. It's a sign that they actually enjoy speaking with you when they can, even if the phone isn't preferable to a face-to-face conversation.
So if an introvert approaches you, they're not just looking for small talk, they're not playing around or just having fun — they're really interested in you! They're so interested that they even defy their own super-reserved tendencies.
It's no secret that introverts suck at intimacy. They're brilliantly intellectual, AKA they're stuck in their heads a lot. They spend more time theorizing intimacy than actually engaging in it. But all is not lost when it comes to love and lust with an introvert.
By extension, introverts typically prefer more submissive social roles, and tend to be less impulsive.
This means talking in terms of the other person's interests and listening to them when they talk about themselves. This shows you're interested in their values, attitudes, experiences, and beliefs. You're interested in who they are as a person, which can be a real turn-on, especially to a fellow introvert or HSP.
Introverts are generally more attuned to expressing love in nonverbal ways and don't tolerate sentimentality. They also need more time to express their affection, so patience is very important at the beginning of the relationship.
Introverts show their love by making you their go-to person for almost everything. Be it something happy or sad, the first person they want to confide in is you. You are the first person they want to share their feelings with because you probably have a great influence on this person's life and you on theirs.
It's yet another form of (dreaded) small talk.
One of the main reasons some introverts don't like texting is because they don't like small talk — and that includes small talk through texting.
An introvert can be clingy or distant just as an ambivert or an extrovert. Give yourself the chance to understand an introvert and you'll know they can be quite independent.
They actually don't flirt
The first clue to finding out if an introvert is flirting with you is that they won't flirt with you in an obvious way. They'll try to make a good conversation while you're around them and make sure that you have a good time, but that's it.
An introvert in love tends to say little but means what he or she says to the word. Therefore patience proves to be the best idea when you are in love with them. They will go out of their way to accommodate you. They'll go to the party that you want to go to, they'll even start hanging out outside every day.
Casual sex is sometimes a no-go.
In other words, according to Dembling, introverts “like to jump into the deep end.” Rather than devoting their time and social energy to someone they're never going to see again, introverts commonly favor being around those they've cultivated an intimate, personal relationship with.
Whether it's through your hobbies or mutual friends, you can find a person who shares your interests and values. Remember to take it slow, be yourself and focus on those that induce a feeling of relaxation and peace within you. For introverts, these qualities are essential in a romantic partner.
Introverts want a mind-to-mind connection where you share your inner world with them including what makes you tick. You also could try asking your partner questions. Many introverts will share their thoughts and feelings in response to questions rather than volunteering information. So, be patient and ask your partner.
Many introverts love spending time with friends and interacting with familiar people in social situations. The key thing to remember is that after a long day of social activity, an introvert will probably want to retreat to a quiet place to think, reflect, and recharge.
They dislike small talk and would rather say nothing than something they feel is insignificant. Although introverts are quiet, they will talk incessantly if they're interested in the topic. They also dislike being interrupted when they talk, or when they're working on some project.
Turns Out, Introverts Are Likely More Sensitive to Alcohol, Caffeine, and Music.
Since research suggests that certain introverts tend to be fantasy-prone, it is not surprising this characteristic applies to romantic fantasies as well. Some introverts enjoy fantasizing about, or “losing oneself” in romance, whether the fantasy is based on a real-life scenario or fiction.
Introverts enjoy deep, emotionally intimate friendships.
While they may be hard to know sometimes, once you've gotten close to an introvert, you'll get the plunge into the depths of their minds and their hearts. They usually have one or two very close friends instead of a lot of shallow friendships.