They have sob stories Everyone goes through tough times, but according to Neo, narcissists take it to the extreme. They will probably tell you about their abusive upbringing, their abusive ex-partners, and how their friends are awful to them.
Narcissists will often tell stories about themselves - sometimes repeating the same story over and over again - and many times, the story will be about an instance of personal heroism or an exploit. But even when a story is of something negative that happened, it'll never be the narcissist's fault.
Narcissists make up stories to support the grandiose fantasies that they have about themselves and their surrounding environment. The stories that narcissists tell help them accumulate narcissistic supply, maintain a grandiose self-perception, and maintain a belief that they are special and unique.
They say things under their breath, but you can hear them.
However, when asked what they just said, they reply with, “Nothing.” Refusing to take responsibility for their mistakes or harmful behavior is alien to them.
Many Narcissists make up stories, identities, careers, they tell lies, live double lives, and exaggerate the hell out of their achievements in order to help create the illusion they'd like you to believe.
Narcissistic people engage in routine forms of denial to distort reality. Some forms of denial are dismissal, justification, minimization, negation, and reversal.
Use Self-Deprecating Tactics
Among many other things covert narcissists do, a hallmark of their eccentricity is using false humility or self-deprecating comments to garner people's attention and seek validation. They trivialize their skills and accomplishments, so people reassure them or shower them with praise.
When it comes to housework, narcissism can manifest in numerous ways. Some narcissists will avoid housework like the plague because it's “below” them. Others will do plenty of housework just to make you feel continuously indebted to them.
In addition to deflecting blame, they will devalue you and make you wish you had never confronted them. Devaluing is a huge part of the narcissistic relationship. When it comes to devaluing you, catching them in a lie will be no different than dealing with any other conflict.
The narcissistic liar
This type of person never admits to making a mistake, even when the mistake could be a growth opportunity for your PR team. He or she is often a "people person" seeking attention when things go right, bragging or exaggerating accomplishments, while being quick to place blame and criticize others.
Drinking alcohol lowers inhibitions and can increase other narcissist behaviors including self-absorption, denial, illusions of grandeur, and destructiveness. These behaviors can lead to poor choices, including drinking and driving or excessive consumption, which can be fatal.
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They are punitive with money. Narcissists often use money as a tool for punishment. They may reward you financially when you do what they want, and then withhold money when they feel vindictive. This can feel unsafe, degrading and confusing.
Not listening to you, blaming you for their mistakes, and holding grudges against you are some weird things narcissists do. Being with such a person may affect your physical and mental health.
Although narcissists act superior, entitled and boastful, underneath their larger-than-life facade lies their greatest fear: That they are ordinary. For narcissists, attention is like oxygen. Narcissists believe only special people get attention.
Signs of Narcissist Gaslighting
They may try to make you feel like you're overreacting or being too sensitive by saying things like, “You're being paranoid,” or “You're imagining things.” They might also try to control what you do and who you see by trying to isolate you from your friends and family.
They're often introverted, sensitive, and prone to experiencing anxiety and shame. They may also struggle to maintain close friendships as they focus heavily on themselves, require attention, and are hyper-sensitive to perceived criticism.
The narcissist often engages in self-defeating and self-destructive behaviours.