Describe the situation, in detail, explaining what the problem is, and why. Make sure you have evidence to back this up. Then offer a solution - what you want them to do, and then the consequences: what will happen if they do - and don't do - as you ask."
to speak angrily to someone because they have done something wrong: The teacher told me off for swearing. Mom told me off for slopping water all down her shirt. If you make your sister cry, you'll get told off.
How do you tell someone to back off in a nice way?
“Maybe you could say something like, 'Excuse me, I'd like to keep my distancing for both of our well-beings. ' If you come up with a saying that's a win-win for both people involved, the other person swallows it a little better … than saying, 'Back off! '”
to tell someone forcefully and rudely to go away: I'm at the point where I want to tell my girlfriend to pound sand because of all the drama. She found the owner of the car and confronted him, but he told her to go pound sand.
Starting a complaint with “I'm sorry to bother you” or “Excuse me, I wonder if you can help me” puts the listener at ease. People are easier to deal with if they feel comfortable so even if you are angry, try to stay calm and start the conversation with one of these phrases.
Say “Sorry, everyone, but the party's over! I had a great time and hope to see you all again soon.” This is direct, but polite, and should get your guests moving along. Tell roommates you need your own space.
Some common synonyms of scold are berate, rail, revile, upbraid, and vituperate. While all these words mean "to reproach angrily and abusively," scold implies rebuking in irritation or ill temper justly or unjustly.
Localize the problem as much as possible: If it's what they're saying, say that you disrespect that and only that. If it's what they do over and over, disrespect that and only that. Still, don't assume that you can draw that clean line.
