Likeable people know who they are. They are confident enough to be comfortable in their own skin. By concentrating on what drives you and makes you happy as an individual, you become a much more interesting person than if you attempt to win people over by making choices that you think will make them like you.
According to what you read, it's because you're not genuine, or you're too judgmental, or you're too insecure. It's always because of something you did, or something you don't do.
Likable people are seen as approachable and personable because they are open-minded and willing to talk to and listen to many different types of people. They avoid having preconceived notions or passing judgment on others, but are willing to hear others out and get different points of view.
Likable people know how to connect: They remember people's names, names are such a core part of people identity, when you state someone's name you make them feel good, likable people smile when they speak, when you smile, you are able to exude warmth and people lower their guard around you and frankly they like you.
An excessive desire to be liked can stem from a lot of different issues. Perhaps you experience a little social anxiety and you worry that others are judging you harshly. So in an effort to reduce your anxiety you go a little overboard trying to be liked.
If we're having a bad day and don't want to be friendly, there's nothing wrong with us. If we make mistakes and say the wrong things, there's nothing wrong with us. Everyone, and especially womxn, have been trained to believe that if someone doesn't like us, that means that there is something wrong within ourselves.
The need to be liked by others is formally known as approval-seeking behavior. It's a form of codependence where your self-worth is based on what others think of you. People pleasers are often described as being “acquiescent,” which means they have a hard time saying “no” or standing up for themselves.
Likeable people balance their passion with the ability to have fun. At work they are serious, yet friendly. They still get things done because they are socially effective in short amounts of time and they capitalize on valuable social moments.
1. ESFJ. People who fit the ESFJ personality type can usually be recognized by their big hearts and kindly manner. ESFJs are warm and welcoming and their love of tradition means they value good old-fashioned manners highly.
INFJ. The INFJ personality type is the undisputed top 1 rarest personality type in the general population coming in at just 2%. INFJs are especially rare among men with only 1% of men qualifying as this personality type. It is slightly more common in women at around 2%.
Philophobia is the fear of love or being loved (philo meaning love; phobia meaning fear). At first this might seem like a silly or uncommon fear, but it affects more people than you may realize. Recall all those times you felt like you weren't enough or that you lacked something essential.
"Not being able to eat, being preoccupied, being unsettled, nervy, jumpy, ungrounded, those can be symptoms of anxiety, but they can also be symptoms of excitement," says Sally Baker, senior therapist at Working on the Body.
