You might be losing interest because they did something that yucked you out or something that might've crumbled the image you had of them. It might not even be something they did, you might just be losing interest because you're moving on from the crush.
You could be suffering from Limerence — a cognitive state of obsession and infatuation. You may be fixated with having your feelings reciprocated. You refuse to give up because you know it's meant to be. Very common in the world of Twin Flames.
Stop liking your crush by ending interactions, including those on social media. Focus on other things in life that make you happy. It will help take your mind off of your crush and encourage a productive way to stop liking him or her. Talk to someone you trust about your feelings to get another perspective.
How Long Does It Take to Get Over a Crush? Mild crushes can fade within a few weeks. Serious crushes are generally limited to the early stages of a relationship, or two years if no relationship develops. If your crush lingers for longer than two years, it's technically classified as limerence.
So why do some of us do this? Obsessive crushes aren't just frustrating - they could be a type of addiction, according to researchers. Dr Gery Karantzas, an Associate Professor at Deakin University studying love and relationships, said some of us get an emotional "reward" from fantasising about a crush.
Speaking to Refinery 29, Kelley Johnson, PhD, a clinical sexologist, explained why we are often turned off when someone comes on too strong. “That much attention can be perceived as desperation or a lack of independence [on the part of the person showing interest],” Dr Johnson explained.
There is no set-in-stone rule for this. You can lose your feelings in a few weeks or take years to let go of those feelings. Most times, it depends on how deeply you loved them, how you prioritize your healing process (and cut all ties with them), and how you are taking care of your needs at the moment.
Guys with a crush might wonder what you're like—and if you like him. If he's curious to know more about you, he'll generally stare intently at you to indicate his interest. He may also approach and strike up a conversation, asking you thoughtful, open-ended personal questions to get to know you.
Every crush has a lifespan and a life cycle. They end in one of two ways: either your crush returns your feelings and you start dating, or your crush doesn't return your feelings (or you never get the nerve up to tell them how you feel), and you eventually move on.
Participants described an average of five crushes during this stretch of time and reported about 15% of them turning into dating relationships at some point. They collected a total of over 7,000 reports on these potential partners.
“We know that we get a big hit of dopamine (our pleasure and reward hormone) and also a big hit cortisol (our stress hormone),” she explains. “So we're kind of wired to act on our attractions. We want to engage with this person, whether that's to reproduce or find a mate or just be connected...
When we experience attraction or develop a crush, chemicals are released in the brain creating a stress and reward response. The first spark of attraction happens in the ventral tegmental area of the brain which produces the “feel good” neurotransmitter known as dopamine.
Once we've felt the glimmer for someone, we naturally seek more of their company. Being around our crush makes us feel a natural high – at least when things are going well. That positive feedback is rewarding, and so we seek more of it. The neuroscience of limerence is based around this reward feedback process.