“If the relationship is moving too fast in the eyes of any or both partners, slowing down is necessary to take stock, re-establish a more comfortable pace, and ensure both people move forward with an understanding of where each other is at,” Armstrong says.
Can you recover a relationship that moved too fast? The answer to that is, probably. But it may take some work. If you've gotten to a place in your relationship where things have started to break down and the foundation just doesn't seem to be there, you will now need to spend time working together to rebuild it.
A reason why relationships that move fast fail is that they think that if they don't commit right away, they'll miss their chance and end up alone. Another reason is that people in these relationships want to feel like they're special and important to the other person.
Caution: if someone is moving too fast, it's one of the clearest relationship red flags. This is an indication that they are either desperate or that they want to catch you before you discover some deep, dark secret.
Common causes for breakups include personality differences, lack of time spent together, infidelity, lack of positive interactions between the couple, low sexual satisfaction, and low overall relationship satisfaction.
Red flags in a relationship include excessive jealousy and frequent lying. You should also be wary of a partner who frequently criticizes you or puts you down. Another major red flag is an unwillingness to compromise — relationships shouldn't be one-sided.
A sure sign that a relationship is moving too quickly is if you have trouble making decisions without your partner early on. It's not uncommon for people to lose themselves in their relationship, and over time couples find themselves dressing, speaking and even acting in a similar manner.
If you plan multiple dates in the same week with one person, can't go long without texting or calling them, or just got out of another relationship, you could be moving too fast. "We should take our time to know a person and make sure they are who they appear to be," Sussman said.
A relationship moving too fast can cause us to feel obsessive and possessive. Your partner had a life before you, and this life continues on. You can't expect someone to drop everything just because they met you.
Use “I” statements. Instead of saying things like, “You're moving too fast,” or “You're talking about the future too much,” try to avoid pointing fingers. “Say explicitly […] that you feel the relationship is moving too quickly,” Hassan says, “because someone else might have no problem with the pace they're setting.
If your partner makes you angry, miserable, or bored often and if it is very hard for you to explain the reasons why you still love this person, it's an obvious sign that you should go your own path. If you feel suffocated in a relationship and if the negatives overshadow the positives, it's time to move on.
If you're not being satisfied emotionally, sexually or intellectually, it's probably time to move on. Ending a relationship is hard, but it's sometimes the only correct thing to do. If you and your partner aren't connecting on the most fundamental levels, it will be best for both of you to move on.
There's No Emotional Connection
One of the key signs your relationship is ending is that you are no longer vulnerable and open with your partner. A cornerstone of happy, healthy relationships is that both partners feel comfortable being truly open to sharing thoughts and opinions with one another.
While it is established that about half of all marriages end in divorce, it is commonly assumed that the breakups are initiated by both genders equally. In fact, it is surprising to most people that women are actually more likely to end their marriages than men.
There is no respect
One of the most common reasons couples break up is a lack of respect in the relationship. When partners do not respect each other, it often leads to broken boundaries, stress, and low self-esteem – not to mention a lack of trust.
Set a reasonable time frame
Six months is a break up, not a break, the experts say. Anything from one week to a month should be enough time for one or both parties to determine whether they should stay together.
Usually rebound relationships last between 6 to 12 months. If they last years, it's usually because the two partners have come to an understanding, turning what was once a rebound relationship into something more long-term and committed.