Healthy INFPs are deeply in touch with their values, morals, and ethics. They are compassionate individuals who strive to live authentic, meaningful lives. They are often imaginative, creative, and quietly passionate.
Many unhealthy INFPs are guilty of misinterpreting anything but explicit praise as criticism or a personal attack, especially if it concerns their values. They can easily get offended and hurt, which in turn may lead them to become defensive.
For mature INFPs, they are compassionate toward other people's flaws because they have meditated on their own darkness. They have known the dependence of light upon the shadow. They have suffered as others have suffered. They care for others because they are interconnected to who they are, because they are them.
Self confident, polite, understands the balance needed in communication, sleeps 8 hours a night, knows how to self-care and take healthy breaks.
Idealism. INFPs care deeply for others and believe it is their duty to make a positive impact on the lives of other people in any way they can. Because of this unbreakable commitment, INFPs are capable of great self-sacrifice, and they won't compromise their ethical standards for personal benefit.
Dominant: Introverted Feeling
They possess an incredible sense of wonder about the world and feel great compassion and empathy for others. While these emotions are strong, INFPs tend not to express them outwardly, which is why they can sometimes be mistaken as aloof or unwelcoming.
Thinking too much about the little intricacies of everything is likely to drain them, which may slow them down in other aspects of life as well. Inflexible or purposeless routine is also likely to bring a bit of stress to INFPs. They generally dislike strict schedules and prefer to make things up as they go.
The pressure of having everyone looking at them waiting for a reaction can make them feel shy or awkward. Many INFPs also experience “second-hand embarrassment”. For example, they might feel embarrassed when someone is trying to make jokes but they are all falling flat.
INFPs ranked as having low dominance according to the CPI™ tool. These individuals are very independent in nature, and value autonomy and personal freedom. They dislike imposing their will on others and believe that everyone has a right to their own individual ethics and beliefs.
INFP: Decisiveness
Other times, they just don't really know what they want. So when someone is decisive and can make a quick, informed decision, it's an incredibly attractive trait for them. It shows their partner can take charge and lead the way, making life much easier for the INFP.
INFPs are a lot like ISFJs and INFJs when it comes to feeling comfortable before flirting. They like to cyber stalk their love interests, but can be somewhat shy with them in person until communication has opened up a bit. You'll find that INFPs make this open communication flow happen rather quickly.
While any personality type can succeed in any environment, INFPs may want to avoid open office environments found in many corporations. INFPs tend to thrive in influential, creative individual contributor roles. They prefer working behind the scenes, rather than as the face of an organization.
INFP and INFJ: The Overthinkers
The reality is that, as Intuitives, INFX personalities are naturally drawn to observe patterns and explore thoughts and ideas. Constantly taking in information and analyzing it may get you stuck in a pattern of overthinking, which can then lead to excessive worry and evolve into anxiety.
According to Blaylock-Solar, the INFP may find the most relationship success with other NF types (ENFJ, ENFP, and INFJ), as well as ESFJs.
The INFP – Shallowness
Shallow conversations, relationships, and activities turn INFPs off because they see them as a waste of time.
If an INFP was traumatized in childhood, they may develop a strong dependence on their therapist. This is because deep down they long for a mentor who respects them for who they are and gives them the guidance they need. At the same time, INFPs tend to be sensitive to interference.
INFP Grip Stress
They stop caring about others' feelings as much and react quickly without worrying about careful evaluation. Often this takes on the form of mulling over bitter thoughts towards others or becoming sarcastic and passive-aggressive.
Emotionally overwhelmed INFPs tend to fixate on their past mistakes and errors in judgment. They often feel like they can't do anything right and get lost in a loop of self-criticism, attempts to “fix” things, confusion, and then despair.
You may have seen the chart of 16 personalities ranked by their statistical chance to have a certain number of gifted individuals per population. I think INFP is ranked 3rd, implying something like 3–4% chance to produce a 130 IQ, 15 SD or higher. INTPs at rank 1 are like something like 6%?
One of the reasons why INFPs disappear or ghost people is because they need time to process what's going on in their heads before responding. INFPs are often deep thinkers who need quiet time alone to reflect on things that happened throughout the day.
Under the spell of their shadow, INFPs might rely too much on others' opinions and even feel like they have lost their identity — something usually so easily accessible to them. In this confusion, they begin to grasp at sudden (and perhaps mistaken) realizations and judgments against others.
INFPs are sometimes referred to as “the Mediator,” “the Idealist,” “the Healer,” or “the Dreamer.” ESTJ is the opposite personality type of INFP.