Proverbs 17:9 We will hurt others, and others will hurt us. But if you can forgive a fault, love can be restored. However, dwelling on wrongs and refusing to let them go causes angry division and painful separation. You may have been hurt in your relationships, or you may have been the one to hurt others.
Psalm 147:3
The Bible says the Lord is close to the brokenhearted and heals the brokenhearted. So, not only will God provide comfort as you move on from a past relationship, but He'll actually help you do it. God will help you heal from the wounds caused by the relationship and move forward in life and love.
Ephesians 4:2-3
We need to be humble, gentle, patient, and exhibit love toward one another (Corinthians 13). By cultivating these virtues, we can overcome any kind of relationship problem, even marital ones. There must be a desire to understand your partner.
30. Ephesians 4:31-32. “Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”
For Christian relationships, breakups are never the end. Whether it sounds appealing now or not, you will be together forever (Revelation 7:9–10). And you'll do so in a new world where no one is married, and everyone is happy (Matthew 22:30; Psalm 16:11).
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” The Good News: No matter the source of your heartbreak, God can repair your wounds.
Let healing take place. Remember, confession and forgiveness are God's remedies to broken relationships. Confession cleanses a wound while forgiveness brings healing and restoration. Eventually a wound heals, and when it does, you take off the bandage.
From then on, the Bible shows a litany of broken and damaged relationships. Brothers turn against brothers, family members lie to each other, daughters sleep with their fathers, mistresses hate their maidservants, husbands fail to protect their wives — and that's just in Genesis!
Jesus also demonstrates the need to sometimes “verbally” walk away when dealing with a toxic person, like Herod. Instead of arguing with Herod and trying to justify himself, Jesus remained silent: “[Herod] plied him with many questions, but Jesus gave him no answer” (Luke 23:9).
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” The Good News: Though you may feel defeated, God is closer than you realize. He is always with you and can heal your heart. “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”
When Paul says, “husbands love your wives as Christ loved the Church” (Ephesians 5:25), he is categorically prohibiting every attitude or behaviour that results in a husband devaluing, humiliating, belittling, or emotionally or physically wounding his wife.
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love (1 John 4:18). God loves you with a perfect love. He sees all your weaknesses, flaws, and struggles and still loves completely.
UNGODLY RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE
So ungodly marriage and relationship thus, will stand for any union between two people who are having the same goal in mind but will not bring glory to God.
Psalm 34:18 tells us that God is close to those who are brokenhearted and crushed in spirit. This is a promise from God because he doesn't want you to feel alone in your suffering. As you draw close to Him in prayer, he will listen to all your hurts and fears, and he will sustain and comfort you.
It's time to end a relationship when that person has become more important to you than God. When we seek to please someone over our relationship with God, we have the made that person a god in our lives. We have placed our trust and hope in a human who cannot provide for our needs, rather that our Heavenly Father.
If a friendship is detracting from your walk with God rather than adding to it, it's time to end that friendship. As Jesus said in Matthew 5:30, “And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away.
Likewise, don't hold people's sins against them forever if they repent and seek to change by God's grace. But if someone has not had time to change and they recently did hurtful things to other people, God wants you to protect your own heart (Proverbs 4:23) by avoiding this person.
John 15:13 tells us, “Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.” This friend is Jesus, and He laid down His life for toxic people—and that includes me.
Proverbs 17:9
Any relationship that lasts needs forgiveness. We are all imperfect human beings, and eventually, we will run into misunderstandings even with those we love. We will hurt others, and others will hurt us. But if you can forgive a fault, love can be restored.
Healing and restoration through God's grace
Breaking free from toxic relationships is a process that involves healing and restoration. It is important to remember that God's grace is available for those who seek it. Through His love and power, God can bring healing, emotional restoration, and renewed hope.
John 15:12: My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Luke 6:31: Do to others as you would have them do to you. Corinthians 16:14: Do everything in love. Proverbs 17:17: A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.
The best way to start the healing process is through prayer. Begin by praying for God to open your hearts and minds to new possibilities for your relationship. Although God will never force either one of you to work on mending your broken relationship, he will provide encouragement to do so.
I lift up my relationship before you today Lord and ask you to bring restoration and healing. Replace my fear with faith in you. May your peace, which surpasses all understanding, guard my heart and my mind in Christ Jesus. Through Jesus Christ, our Lord, Amen.
Prayer for Protection and Faithfulness
Dear God, protect our marriage today. I know we are both struggling to keep this marriage together. I ask that you would help us remain faithful to each other. Don't let the marital problems we are facing pull us away from each other and towards another person.