Jonathan Harnisch “Sadly enough, the most painful goodbyes are the ones that are left unsaid and never explained.” This quote comes from Harnisch's novel, Freak, and like the previous quote encourages us to spend time with our loved ones, if possible, before they pass over.
The most painful goodbyes are the ones never said, but the heart already knows it's over.
“The hardest goodbye is the one shared with someone you've spent the most time. The unbearable pain of losing someone woven into the tapestry of who you are is a lingering agony that reminds you with each breath a part of you is missing.
“You've changed me forever. And I'll never forget you.” – Kiera Cass. “I thought I was stronger than a word, but I just discovered that having to say goodbye to you is by far the hardest thing I've ever had to do.”
When saying goodbye to someone you love or care about, you might feel uncomfortable or experience profound sadness. You may also fear the friendships you might lose in the future. At times, feeling the pain of loss may make people want to keep to themselves to try to prevent the hurt of losing someone again.
The hardest goodbyes are the ones that were never said and never explained, the ones where the story wasn't over.
Sometimes, it's easier to turn off our feelings, rationalize them away, and feel we need to hide it. However, we can't move forward unless we come face to face with the memories, and with it, the flood of emotions. It's okay sit and cry. It's okay that things may not make sense at the moment.
One reason is that we've gotten attached to a job, a relationship, or the vehicle or thing we're going to say goodbye to. The fact that we've had a wonderful experience and formed a relationship with the people we're about to say goodbye to makes us sad, uncomfortable, or apprehensive about what comes next.
- Peter Pan by J.M. Barrie
Happy birthday to the late J.M. Barrie.
“All the best” is defined as a phrase that is used to say goodbye as well as wish someone “success, health, and happiness for the future”. The origin of the phrase “all the best” can probably be traced back to the longer signoff phrase “I wish you all the best of luck”.
Words are powerful weapons and can do a lot of damage. “ You're *#@! % stupid. ” “ I wish you were never born. ” “ No one is ever going to love you, you're so *#@! % fat and ugly. ” “ You never get anything right. ” “ You're worthless. ” These are mean and degrading things to say to someone.
Depression
It really is the worst feeling, but it's also motivated some great art over the years.
I'll always remember our time together as one of the most memorable periods of my life. I hope you will forgive me and understand that my departure is in everyone's best interest. I've enjoyed our time together and am grateful for everything you've done for me. Let's have an amicable separation.
As strange as it seems, the word “goodbye” is rarely used to say goodbye. It sounds very formal and is typically only used if you are never going to see the person again. “Bye” is usually more appropriate, even in business situations.
I'm glad we both agree that this relationship isn't going where we want it to. I wish you all the happiness in the world with someone else, but it's time for us to say goodbye for good. Hey [Ex's Name]. I'm really glad we're both on the same page and we agree this is the end.
Avoiding the goodbye is the easiest way to keep all feelings intact. It's okay to say goodbye later, if we need to. It's okay to quietly acknowledge to ourselves before the goodbye, during one of last times we hang out with someone or the last times we see a place, this is the end.
We usually associate tears with sadness, so it might seem strange to cry when you're happy. But crying can have some positive effects on your well being, and can actually help you to manage your emotions.
Telling someone not to cry also goes some way to invalidate their feelings and emotions, teaching them that bottling them up is acceptable, and letting them out is not. This bottling up can create much bigger and even more out of context outbursts later, so it's really in nobody's best interest to do this.