Why do we hurt the one we love the most?

You may hurt the one you love the most simply because they are the ones that are mostly around. Our emotions, thoughts and behaviours are in constant interplay. If we have a negative mood, we are therefore more likely to act in ways that match our emotional state or get triggered by innocuous and harmless stimuli.

Takedown request   |   View complete answer on youniversetherapy.com

Why do we hurt each other if we love each other?

We hurt the one we love for several reasons: 1) Unconscious re-creation of emotional trauma – we all experience various degrees of emotional hurt and trauma growing up. Unfortunately, we form part of our identities around whatever we experience, be it love, distance, drama, or verbal or physical abuse.

Takedown request   |   View complete answer on relationship-institute.com

Why does true love hurt so much?

Research shows that the pain a person feels when they're rejected activates the same part of the brain associated with physical pain, which explains why this type of emotional distress can feel so real and so acute.

Takedown request   |   View complete answer on betterhelp.com

How do I stop hurting the one I love?

Using Empathy To Support Your Partner

If you hurt someone you love, respecting their feelings can be paramount to repairing your relationship. While you may want to swoop in and “fix” how your partner feels, often, it can be more helpful to sit with your partner in their pain and show them some support.

Takedown request   |   View complete answer on regain.us

Why am I so attached to someone who hurt me?

Trauma Bonding is when we are attracted to someone because they remind us of our past traumas. A good example of this would be if you have an ex who broke your heart, you might be attracted to people who remind you of that person.

Takedown request   |   View complete answer on thelivingrelationship.com

7 Reasons We Hurt the Ones We Love

42 related questions found

Can someone hurt you and still love you?

Love is closely connected with vulnerability: the ability to hurt and to be hurt. Although some kinds of hurt in love are intended, most of them are not. Nevertheless, someone who deliberately hurts another person can simultaneously claim to love that person.

Takedown request   |   View complete answer on psychologytoday.com

What is the most painful thing in love?

“The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.”

Takedown request   |   View complete answer on facebook.com

Can true love really end?

Unfortunately, it is technically not true that true love never dies in a romantic love relationship. This is because death, divorce, and breakups are essentially the death of love, silencing the myth that “true love never dies.” True love eventually dies in some form or another.

Takedown request   |   View complete answer on regain.us

Why are we mean to those we love?

It may be because of emotional baggage, the desire to assert control or independence, to test boundaries, or simply, because people may just expect a lot from the other. Some may have a fear of intimacy, due to cultural upbringing, or because of living through traumatic or abusive relationships.

Takedown request   |   View complete answer on theswaddle.com

How do you know if your heart is broken emotionally?

If your heart is broken, you might feel symptoms common to depression:
  • Fatigue.
  • Reduced or increased appetite.
  • Sleeping too little or too much.
  • Lack of interest in your usual activities.
  • Anxiety.

Takedown request   |   View complete answer on verywellmind.com

How a man feels when he hurts a woman?

To start with, many emotions go on when a man hurts you. Anger, frustration, disappointment, and resentment are a few of what a man feels when his woman is broken. The specific feeling a man has will depend on what caused the disagreement or fight in the first place.

Takedown request   |   View complete answer on marriage.com

What does deep love feel like?

Passionate love feels like instant attraction with a bit of nervousness. It's the "feeling of butterflies in your stomach,"Lewandowski says. "It's an intense feeling of joy, that can also feel a bit unsure because it feels so strong."

Takedown request   |   View complete answer on menshealth.com

Can you be in love with someone forever?

But is it actually possible for love to last forever? The definition and duration of love can be debatable, but research suggests that love is frequently resilient – and, in some cases, it can last longer than a lifetime.

Takedown request   |   View complete answer on betterhelp.com

What is the most painful thing known to man?

These are the worst pains humans can experience: From kidney stones to cracked ribs
  • Shingles.
  • Cluster headaches.
  • Frozen shoulder.
  • Broken bones.
  • Complex regional pain syndrome (CRPS)
  • Heart attack.
  • Slipped disc.
  • Sickle cell disease.

Takedown request   |   View complete answer on sports.yahoo.com

Does true love always hurt?

Turns out yes, it's normal for love to hurt. And you don't have to be in an abusive relationship for this to happen. In fact, even good relationships can bring some aching discomfort at times. Caring deeply about someone else is enough to transform emotional pain into physical pain — the science says so.

Takedown request   |   View complete answer on supportiv.com

What are the 3 most painful things?

Broken bones. Complex regional pain syndrome (CRPS) Heart attack.

Takedown request   |   View complete answer on independent.co.uk

Why do I still love him after he hurt me?

We feel they love us even though they treat us badly. This contradiction is known as cognitive dissonance, where we believe two contradictory thoughts at the same time. As a result of the contradiction we can become more extreme in our thoughts and behaviours as we wrestle with the disconnect.

Takedown request   |   View complete answer on visionpsychology.com

Why can't I leave someone who hurts me?

We don't want to let go of people who are bad for us because our incompatibility is exactly what makes it clear to us how much we love them. It's never easy to let go of someone who has such a power over us, but it must be done.

Takedown request   |   View complete answer on elitedaily.com

How does it feel when someone you love hurts you?

You'll feel all the pain and betrayal when someone hurts you deeply. Sometimes, you will feel you're left with nothing. However, healing from hurt will always start with you and not from anyone else, even from the one who broke your heart. Some people, though hurt, will still put others first.

Takedown request   |   View complete answer on marriage.com

Do I love him or am I just attached?

Love evokes fond feelings and actions toward the other person, particularly. Attachment is driven by how you feel about yourself with the degree of permanence and safety someone gives you, based on your past relationships. In other words, with love, your person is “the one” you have feelings for.

Takedown request   |   View complete answer on psychcentral.com

How do men act when they are hurt?

Men, in particular, can be guarded when they're hurt. Instead of telling you when they feel hurt, they may withdraw, lash out, or act in other strange ways. These reactions can be frustrating and confusing. But it's important to know both the subtle and clear signs that a man is hurt emotionally.

Takedown request   |   View complete answer on thenarcissisticlife.com

How do you know a man loves you deeply?

10 Signs He Loves You Deeply Even He Doesn't Say
  • He protects you.
  • You are his priority.
  • He wants you to be happy.
  • He supports your dreams.
  • He shows up when you need help.
  • He tries to make you feel better.
  • He is making plans for your future.
  • He shows up with plans already made.

Takedown request   |   View complete answer on thebigday.my