To let him know you're actually interested—and not just looking around the room—hold the eye contact for a few seconds. Count to three in your head and then look away. And if you're feeling extra bold, quickly look back for just one more second.
Eye contact, smiles, and glances are just as effective as touching but don't come with the possibility of coming off too forward or behaving inappropriately. You might also compliment her work ethic. Praise a project she did well recently. Keep things light and more on the prude side, just to be safe.
Receiving compliments on your looks, getting a flirty text message, a smile across the room or a random hug may feel great if it comes from the right person at the right time. These all are instances of flirting but the same text or the same compliment might get creepy and annoying if you get it from the wrong person.
A coworker who likes you will show genuine curiosity about your personal life. They may ask questions about your hobbies, interests, or weekend plans. They want to get to know you on a more personal level and show an interest in the things that matter to you.
A crush at work is also characterized by a longing for the object of the crush. This longing can be as simple as “I want to go talk to him.” It can also have a certain amount of sexual fantasizing or a desire for physical contact. A crush is also very fleeting in its existence.
A brief touch on the shoulder, a light brush against the arm or a playful nudge of the elbow might make you suspect someone is flirting. If this type of contact happens often, whether disguised as accidental or not, it could be flirting.
How do you know someone is secretly crushing on you?
If they blush around you, laugh uncontrollably for almost no reason, can't look you in the eye, or fidgets a lot, then you have your answer. These are all tell-tale signs of someone who is crushing. See if they mirror your behavior. A common sign of attraction can be shown through imitation.
Your coworker may have a crush on you if: They steal glances at you throughout the day for no apparent reason. They stare at you, wink, or otherwise invite your interest with their eyes during meetings or other occasions at work. They check your physical features out regularly.
