Toxic daughters, however, are usually more indirect with their aggression. They show passive-aggressive behaviors like giving you the silent treatment, not returning your calls and texts, and 'forgetting' to do what you asked them to do.
One common way toxic mothers overstep boundaries with their daughters is by micromanaging their lives. If your mother continues to dictate your appearance, career, or romantic choices, or even meddles in your life long after you've reached adulthood, that is a sign of toxicity.
Apologize — If you hurt her, the first step to mending your relationship is a sincere apology. Admit that you were wrong, and acknowledge how it affected her. Once you've apologized, give her space if she needs it, but don't respond to attacks. If she's angry, she may need time to calm down.
When adult children desire to individuate and develop autonomy, they may struggle to trust their choices and may fear being unable to withstand mom's influence. Often, to avoid feelings of criticism or incompetence, the daughter will pull away.
The reasons behind disrespectful behavior include the perfectly normal and healthy process of your child growing up and away from his identity as a younger child. Teens naturally seek more independence as they get older, and mild disrespect is one way that independence gets expressed.
If your daughter has no regard for your opinions, values, and boundaries, it's a sure sign of hatred or at least not caring about you. A toxic daughter will repeatedly say mean things to you to hurt you. She'll criticize you harshly and put you down.
Unhealthy relationships are all about power and control, and lack mutual respect or boundaries. If you feel like your child is spending a lot of time with their partner and less time on school, hanging with friends or other activities, that's a warning sign.
Point out Ungratefulness
When you hear your child say or do something that shows an ungrateful attitude, point it out. Be specific without being insulting. For instance, avoid saying something like, “Stop being a brat.” Instead, say something like, “Complaining about not getting more presents is ungrateful.
Teens want to feel that they're more in control of their relationships and lives. They're striving for an increased sense of independence. These feelings often translate to disrespectful, rebellious behavior. According to an article by Psychology Today, children can sense parental stress and will react negatively.
Psychologists call it individuation and, although painful for parents, it is normal and healthy for your child. As uncomfortable as it might be as a parent, your child's distance from you is actually right on track: the teen years mark their transition into the adult world.
When your child says hurtful things to you, it's usually an expression of frustration or loss of control. Parents often forget that kids are communicating with brains that are not fully formed. The mean words are their way of expressing feelings rather than describing their actual feelings about you.
Kids complain for lots of good reasons: to blow off steam, to connect with us, and because they feel powerless. Other times, the complaints might mask an underlying emotion that needs to be released.
The girl is expected to maintain their morality, humility, and responsible. Daughters have the responsibility to help around the house. They are expected to do the chores without having their parents remind them. While growing up, she is sometimes given the responsibilities of her parents.
Traits Of A Healthy Mother-Daughter Relationship
They acknowledge each other as individuals and spend adequate time – neither too much nor too little. The mother-daughter duo recognizes and respects boundaries. They make reasonable commitments to each other and come through on them.
The first bond that a girl has is with her mother, and so it leaves a great impact on her entire life. If the bond between a mother and daughter is balanced — with kindness, care, love, carefulness, and some limitations — the relationship is respectful and will blossom.