God uses periods of singleness to fortify our trust in him. He wants to see if you are going to trust Him, even when you don't understand why He's doing things the way He is. Someone can't be patient with God if He always provides everything you desire immediately after you ask.
God may be extending this time when you are not in a covenant relationship with someone else because he wants to strengthen the bond you have with him. He wants you to trust him more. Cry out to him, and watch him provide for you in unexpected ways.
Here it is: Marriage is good, but singleness is better. Many might disagree, but the Apostle Paul asserts, “So then he who marries his betrothed does well, and he who refrains from marriage will do even better” (1 Cor. 7:38).
The answer: singleness is the God-given opportunity to serve and wait in single-minded readiness whilst the present form of the world is passing away. It is a station in life that is gifted for a person for that particular day, and whilst a Christian is single, they are blessed to be so.
What does God say about restoring relationships? If you are asking yourself “Does God bring couples back together?” Then I can confidently say “yes”. However, only as long as the relationship is according to His purpose for your life.
If your boyfriend crosses your boundaries every time and it makes you feel uncomfortable, then that is how you know when God is telling you to let go of someone. A relationship in which you repeatedly feel disrespected, bad about yourself, or can't be authentic is not a healthy relationship.
Psalm 34:18
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” The Good News: Though you may feel defeated, God is closer than you realize. He is always with you and can heal your heart.
Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
Adults who are single may feel sadness, grief, regret, and ambivalence about unviable potential mates. In addition, unviable potential partners may become idealized with time and take the place of the anticipated spouse, setting a standard that new and viable potential partners can't meet.
Maybe someone has encouraged you to “trust God in your singleness,” but you are unsure what that actually means. Though singleness can be hard, you can trust God in your singleness by remembering your true calling, surrendering control to God, and considering God's character.
In fact, research shows people are staying single for longer and settling down older, and some are choosing to be that way forever. Singledom shouldn't be regarded as anything to be pitied — it should be embraced. Especially as there are numerous mental and physical benefits to being on your own.
Whereas in Genesis 2 God observes, “It is not good that the man should be alone” (Genesis 2:18), Paul tells the unmarried and the widows that “it is good for them to remain single, as I am” (1 Corinthians 7:8). Paul, when looking at the new-covenant community, doesn't see marriage-lessness as a curse, but as a gift.
You haven't met the right person.
According to clinical psychologist Carla Marie Manly, Ph. D., sometimes people remain single longer than they might want to be because they simply haven't met the right person yet. "Despite the quest to be partnered, some people find that they can't find the right fit," she tells mbg.
This “not yet” could mean God will tell you to say “yes” to this opportunity one day or it could mean God is going to lead you to say “no” to this relationship opportunity. But at this point God has you in a season where no action is required because you need more direction from the Lord first.
Feelings of loneliness, including romantic loneliness, can have a serious impact on health and well-being. Feeling isolated, unsupported, and lonely is linked to decreased immunity, worse sleep, lower cardiovascular health, and increased mental health problems.
It can be said, given that being single causes depression, anxiety and a reduced will to live. According to the Health and Human Services Report, people in a relationship are much more likely to be happier and have higher immunity against mental health problems.
Simply put, as humans we need and we thrive from connection. Some people can experience feelings of loneliness or anxiety in the absence of having a sense of love and belonging which can, in turn, create pressure to be in a relationship. This pressure can lead to unhelpful negative biases about being single.
You Strengthen Other Relationships
Your partner may have different preferences for socializing or they may not like your friends. As a matter of fact, most couples only hang out with other couples. Being single is okay and in fact a blessing because you can invest time in quality friendships that'll last a lifetime.
1 Peter 4:8. "Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins." The Good News: Love each other honestly and earnestly, even when you hate them most. Forgiveness is key, and then your love will shine brightest in the darkest moments in your relationship.
When there is mutual interest, mutual commitment, and a mutual willingness to move the relationship forward at a healthy pace, these are strong indications God does want you with this person. Relationships are a unique place in life where the spiritual and practical combine and are constantly intermingling.
One possibility is that God is actually removing these feelings, it's just taking longer than you want it to. Just like physical pain because of a broken bone, the pain will go away one day but it will take a long time because there are things that need to heal and mend before those feelings can go away.
God loves broken people. And when weary, wounded men and women find a way to open their bruised hearts and somehow welcome Him into their personal darkness, they will find a love beyond anything they have ever known.